How do you deal with a mother who can’t let go?

It’s hard for most moms to accept that her little girl is now all grown up (yes, even if you’re almost hitting your 30s). This is why your usually strong, independent mommy turns a wee bit needy, demanding constant phone calls and quality time. However, it’s important that you stand your ground. Your mother may not like your limits at first. She may never get used to then and keep complaining. But stick to [your limits] anyway. They are your boundaries. For your own well-being, you have to be firm about what is best for you. This way you can preserve your relationship with your parent. Assert your independence, but make sure to allot time for mom-and-daughter bonding based on terms acceptable to you.

Every girl knows the golden relationship rules, like telling your guy how great he is in bed, not how amazing your ex was. But, there are other guidelines that aren’t so obvious. Behold, the ultimate cheat sheet.

Leaving stuff at his place
☑ “Forget” your necklace — leave behind a pretty, delicate piece of jewelry (such as a little gold necklace) and he’ll think of you in similar terms every time he sees it.

☒ Leave a toothbrush in his bathroom — an unsolicited toothbrush or other toiletries will give him the impression you’re moving too fast — and that may freak him out.

Hanging with the guys
☑ Watch the game with his friends — spending an afternoon on the couch with his pals says you’re easygoing and cool… and he’ll appreciate you making an effort to get to know his boys.

☒ Cheer really loudly, chug beers, or tell green jokes — let’s put it this way: It’s really hard for him to be sexually attracted to someone who reminds him of his buddies.

Give him gifts
☑ Buy his tickets — present him with two tickets to see his favourite team or band and you’ll win major points for being thoughtful and creative.

☒ Get him a sweater — he gets plenty of clothes from his mom. And, you don’t want him to associate you with her, do you? Didn’t think so.

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